Yesterday my 7 year old goes in to talk to his dad. Matt has been working nights and the boys have really been missing him. Josh likes to sneek into our room when I'm not paying attention. He goes in and wakes his dad up and talks to him. He sneeks because he knows that I'll get after him for waking up his dad. Matt usually is half asleep and doesn't really hear what Josh is saying. Yesterday was no differant than any other day in that Matt really wasn't fully awake when Josh was talking. However what Josh had said was something that Matt remembered.
My boys like to watch the Disney channel and Disney XD. We don't let them watch Cartoon Network because there are very few kids cartoons on there anymore. We have always thought that Disney was a safe channel. Sure, there are a few shows that get under my skin but thats because there are adults who act like kids and kids who act like adults. There are few other shows were the kids act immature and ridiculous. Sometimes you hear someone say something about a girl being "hot" or that someone is stupid. You can explain to your kids that those are words that you don't like them saying. What Josh said was not something I wanted to explain to a 7 year old.
The boys watch a show called Lab Rats. I've watched it a few time with them and although it was annoying I didn't see any problem with it untill yesterday. Josh told his dad that the computer in the show told the man "I can see you everywhere. I can even see you in the shower and nothing should be that clean." How do you explain to your 7 years old that he shouldn't ever repeat that to anyone. Shame on you Disney for allowing language like this in a kids show. Sure we've all enjoyed some of the Disney movies in the last 20 years. They have added some adult humor that gets missed by our kids and keeps us happy. This however has gone a bit too far! Is there anything wrong with wanting your children to stay children while they can? They have to grow up fast enough, why do they have to rush it?? I'm still not sure what to do about the tv, but for now they can only watch Phineas and Ferb.
Saturday, August 25, 2012
Friday, June 22, 2012
A fork in the road.
There comes a time in your life when you have a fork in the road and you just don't know what way to go. I'm at that fork. If I stay on the path I'm on things are just going to stay the way they are and I'm going to be unsettled all the time. If I chose the other then my life will not be the same. I really don't know what to do and I'm scared at the thought of things never being the same. If I stay then I'm just letting myself get walked on and used again. What to do...
I guess God has it all worked out and there really is nothing I can do without prayer and putting it in His hands. I again think of my favorite verus and know all will be ok.
"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matthew 6:34
I guess God has it all worked out and there really is nothing I can do without prayer and putting it in His hands. I again think of my favorite verus and know all will be ok.
"Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own." Matthew 6:34
Friday, June 1, 2012
Waiting, waiting waiting. That's pretty much how the last six months have gone for us around here. Waiting for the "big one" and I don't mean a heart attack. Waiting for counselors, waiting for the psychiatrists, waiting for the big one! I really get so tired of waiting!! Now I'm waiting on a return phone call from the Henry Ford. Our lives are being turned upside down and all we can do is wait!
Sorry about that I think I may have just had a mental break down. I really don't want to go into a ton of detail, and I really don't want to tell the world whats going on in our private lives right now. Just know that we are having some issues with our son and that we need all the prayers we can get. Pray for peace for Benjamin. Pray for strength for Matt and I. Most importantly, if you hear something please don't be quick to judge. We need all the love and support we can get right now from family and friends.
Sorry about that I think I may have just had a mental break down. I really don't want to go into a ton of detail, and I really don't want to tell the world whats going on in our private lives right now. Just know that we are having some issues with our son and that we need all the prayers we can get. Pray for peace for Benjamin. Pray for strength for Matt and I. Most importantly, if you hear something please don't be quick to judge. We need all the love and support we can get right now from family and friends.
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Spring brings change.
Change is hard! I think that it is not really the change, but the transition from the familiar to the new. It's the actual process that is hard. Once you get to the end result it's not that bad. Most of the time your happy once you get to the goal line. We deal with change everyday. Some things we expect to change like the weather, and for those of us in Michigan we know that could happen a few times in a day. Some things are life changing like a death or birth. The changes our family is going though right now are a bit life altering. How we handle the next few months is going to be interesting to say the least.
Our middle son, Ben, has been going though something. We aren't sure how things are going to turn out for him just yet, but we are working on it. We need a lot of love and prayers right now for him and for Matt and I. We are struggling to stay above water and we hope to find answers soon. As soon as I know more I might let you all in on it.
Matt and I have been doing some counseling. We have been blessed with a strong marriage. God has brought us together and He made Matt just for me. How lucky am I to have found the best husband. Our counseling is to help with the hard job of parenting our children. Most people have kids and have no trouble being great parents. We however are starting to have some trouble. We really have a situation that a lot of people are never faced with. The counseling is helping tremendously! I've now started to sit back and relax just a bit when it comes to the kids. We actually left them for the weekend last week. It was the first time we went away in almost 10 years. The last time we only had Adam. It was great to get away and focus on us. The counseling has also taught me that I need to try to be more understanding with my kids. I have been told that I was not a good Mother before and I think that really cut deep. I always feel that I'm being judged by those around me so I'm quick to react when I feel my boys are doing something "wrong" even though it may be some little thing that they can work out on their own. Holy run on sentence! Anyway, I've learned to ask "so what did we learn from this" so that they learn how to solve their own problems. I grew up in a house with a ton of yelling. I thought it was what eveyone did. Matt grew up in a house without yelling. This has always been a problem with our parenting styles. Matt never yells at the boys. He is such an amazing parent. I do, did, a lot of yelling. I'm really trying to stop. Tonight I handled a problem without yelling once.
The biggest change our family is facing right now is with Adam. He will be changing schools in a few weeks. This is a change that pretty much hit us in the face. It will be a good change in the end. It was one that we were prepared for in the fall, however it's happening now. Adam's teacher needed to take the rest of the year off. That is very hard on Autistic children. The sub that they get may not be the sub they have for the next few months. This was something that Adam had to deal with a few years ago and it didn't go well. We decided to send him to his new school this year instead of next year. That way he wouldn't have to deal with the change of a new sub every few days until they find a long term one. The hard thing about this move is that it's middle school. Adam is in 5th grade and he will be going to middle school. I know that it is still an ISD classroom and that he will get all the support he needs, but it's still middle school. My baby is going to MIDDLE SCHOOL!!! This is hard for me. It seems like yesterday I was putting him on the little preschool bus. The tears are starting to flow. I can't beleive my boy is growing up. I'm excited because I know that he will learn so much more than he has in the last few years, but at this point I just want to curl up with him and keep him young for as long as possible. As I sit here and type I keep remembering the Kermit the frog pj's. Oh how I miss those days.
Change. We need it to learn and to progress in life. It is so very hard at times. For our family, changes are for the good. I just hope that through the next few months we are all more understanding of each other. I know that it is something that is impossible to ask the kids, but for myself it is just what I need to be.
Our middle son, Ben, has been going though something. We aren't sure how things are going to turn out for him just yet, but we are working on it. We need a lot of love and prayers right now for him and for Matt and I. We are struggling to stay above water and we hope to find answers soon. As soon as I know more I might let you all in on it.
Matt and I have been doing some counseling. We have been blessed with a strong marriage. God has brought us together and He made Matt just for me. How lucky am I to have found the best husband. Our counseling is to help with the hard job of parenting our children. Most people have kids and have no trouble being great parents. We however are starting to have some trouble. We really have a situation that a lot of people are never faced with. The counseling is helping tremendously! I've now started to sit back and relax just a bit when it comes to the kids. We actually left them for the weekend last week. It was the first time we went away in almost 10 years. The last time we only had Adam. It was great to get away and focus on us. The counseling has also taught me that I need to try to be more understanding with my kids. I have been told that I was not a good Mother before and I think that really cut deep. I always feel that I'm being judged by those around me so I'm quick to react when I feel my boys are doing something "wrong" even though it may be some little thing that they can work out on their own. Holy run on sentence! Anyway, I've learned to ask "so what did we learn from this" so that they learn how to solve their own problems. I grew up in a house with a ton of yelling. I thought it was what eveyone did. Matt grew up in a house without yelling. This has always been a problem with our parenting styles. Matt never yells at the boys. He is such an amazing parent. I do, did, a lot of yelling. I'm really trying to stop. Tonight I handled a problem without yelling once.
The biggest change our family is facing right now is with Adam. He will be changing schools in a few weeks. This is a change that pretty much hit us in the face. It will be a good change in the end. It was one that we were prepared for in the fall, however it's happening now. Adam's teacher needed to take the rest of the year off. That is very hard on Autistic children. The sub that they get may not be the sub they have for the next few months. This was something that Adam had to deal with a few years ago and it didn't go well. We decided to send him to his new school this year instead of next year. That way he wouldn't have to deal with the change of a new sub every few days until they find a long term one. The hard thing about this move is that it's middle school. Adam is in 5th grade and he will be going to middle school. I know that it is still an ISD classroom and that he will get all the support he needs, but it's still middle school. My baby is going to MIDDLE SCHOOL!!! This is hard for me. It seems like yesterday I was putting him on the little preschool bus. The tears are starting to flow. I can't beleive my boy is growing up. I'm excited because I know that he will learn so much more than he has in the last few years, but at this point I just want to curl up with him and keep him young for as long as possible. As I sit here and type I keep remembering the Kermit the frog pj's. Oh how I miss those days.
Change. We need it to learn and to progress in life. It is so very hard at times. For our family, changes are for the good. I just hope that through the next few months we are all more understanding of each other. I know that it is something that is impossible to ask the kids, but for myself it is just what I need to be.
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