While I was getting my pjs on tonight and thinking about my day I was wondering how people take me. What I mean is that sometimes I say things, and then hours later think, wow did I really say that. I hope that I didn't offend anyone or that they didn't take it the wrong way. I guess that sometimes I just don't know how to filter very well and say things that I don't really mean or they just come out different than what I'm saying in my head. This is the reason Matt didn't talk to me the morning of Mothers Day. I lost my filter and said something wrong.
Tonight the boys and I went to my sister-in-laws for a Creative Memories party. I was asked where on the Autism Spectrum Adam was. It was a question from someone who has a child that is being tested for Aspergers. It was a great question and I'm not the type to be offended by things. My answer is that he has Autism however he is potty trained and his is vocal but doesn't communicate well. So maybe my answer wasn't that great. I was really kind of caught off guard with this. No one has ever asked me this before so I really didn't know how to answer. My SIL was quick to jump in and say that Adam is higher on the spectrum than a child with Aspergers. I really sounded like a fool. I mean really who just jumps in and says "Well he uses the toilet and can talk." Okay, maybe I didn't use those exact words but that what I was thinking while getting my pjs on. I can't believe that I would say something like this. This woman is going through testing for her son and here I am making light of it as ususal. Sometimes I forget that some people are just starting this journey and that in the beginning you want to hide from it and everyone. That some days you question God on why this is happening. I've never been a "why me God?" person. I'm not that way now, but for a short period of time I was. I know that His plan was for Adam to be mine. I'm so very thankful that He gave me this child. I do however sometimes forget how hard it is for a parent when they are just starting this whole ASD thing. A while later Adam called me to look at his tooth because it was bleeding. He sat down on the couch and I was telling him that I would take him to the dentist. Both my sisters-in-law were telling him how they go to the dentist and he started yelling at them to stop talking to him. I'm thinking that maybe the woman who asked about the spectrum just might know where he falls now.
After reading this I was reminded how when a someone told me that they got a diagnoses I was happy. I actually said "Oh thats great." I mean who says that?!?! What I should have said was "Finally you got some answers. Do you have any questions? " or " This was helpful for me..." No I was all smiley and happy that she got a diagnoses. I guess I'm a glass half full kind of person.
Oh and I also want to take a quick moment to say sorry about my bad grammer and poor spelling. I was reading some of my posts and WOW there's a lot of mistakes. Please keep in mind that I write when I really should be in bed so I don't really pay much attention to the mistakes. So it 12:10am and I have to be at the playground at 8:30am for tee ball pics so I guess I better get off here.
Friday, May 20, 2011
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
Slow down.
My last couple weeks have been really REALLY really busy so no postings lately. I guess it's time to get started agian.
My Mothers day was eventfull. Not the worst Mothers Day ever but it was the second. The worst was the weekend that I had Ben and he had to be transfered from St. Charles to St. V's. He never pooped after being born on Friday and by Sunday it was time to move him. That's really another story for a different time. Anyway, Mothers Day this year started out with my husband not talking to me. Then we went to my parents house and my Dad passes out. He does do this often. However this time he stopped breathing so that was different. The firemen came and then the EMT's. God bless the Petersburg Fire Department and all of their wives and Mothers who share them on Holidays and Mothers Day! When my mom and I got to the ER we had to wait for a LONG time before we could see him. Guess he did the samething after he got to the hospital. His blood pressure was very low and the nurse was staying with him to monitor it. After 5 hours of the ER they got him into the ICU. It was about 8:00 when I then called Matt to come and get me. About 5 minutes after I called him, he called me back. His sister was very sick and the called 911. My bad day just got worse! My husbands family is very very close. I fell in love with them all right away. I've always been part of the family and they have always made it easy for me. At this point my head was just spinning. At the same time the nurse came in to tell us that my grandparents were there to see Dad so me, my brother and sister-in-law had to go so they could come in. By then Matt should be there to get me so I went outside to wait. We then traded places and he went to the hospital with his sister and I stayed wiht the boys. So that was my Mothers Day. Oh yeah, my brother bought me lunch/dinnner at the hospital so that was my BIG treat!
After all this excitement came the hard part. I never mentioned that my boys were with my dad when he passed out. They were there when my mother was shaking and saying over and over that he was dying. She has never been this scared or upset when this happends to him. My sis-in-law and I joke that we have to be the most cruel family out there because when he passes out now we just give him a blanket and wait for him to wake up. This sounds very harsh but he has been doing this now for about 5 years and the doctors don't know what is wrong. So as I was saying my boys were with him and now they heard Grandma say he was dying. They were scared! Adam was crying and kept rocking and started flapping his hands. That is something he hasn't done in a long time. Ben and Josh were just scared. They didn't cry but they didn't want to stay in the house. They wanted to watch to make sure Gramps was okay. They watched the firemen come. They watched the EMTs leave with Gramps and now they are watching Meema cry. That also never happends. My mom is a very strong person. She NEVER lets anyone see her cry! Now they are with Matt at their other grandmas and they get a call that something is wrong at Aunt Na's. Have I mentioned that my husband is the BEST! He never let the kids know that anything was really wrong. He just said that Aunt Na had to go to the doctor and that He was going to go too. After they picked me up and Matt left the questions started to come. Most of them came from Josh. He is a very chatty child and wants to know everything. In the end Aunt Na was okay and got to come home. Gramps spent four days in ICU. He came home but was still looking very gray. The boys wanted to be at Meema's very day last week, but couldn't. Gramps needed his rest. They are now starting to slow down with the questions. They haven't really talked about it much in the last couple days. Ben did stay with them on Friday night and that helped. He could see that Gramps was doing better.
So I had a very busy week last week and now things are starting to slow down. Yeah, RIGHT!!! It's never slow around here! So now I will go finish preping the kitchen for paint and get the laundry started and get the bathrooms cleaned and get the camper ready for next weekend and....
Did I mention that we were at the Urgent Care last night with Ben?!?!?!? Maybe someday my life will slow down and I can breath, but I really don't think so.
My Mothers day was eventfull. Not the worst Mothers Day ever but it was the second. The worst was the weekend that I had Ben and he had to be transfered from St. Charles to St. V's. He never pooped after being born on Friday and by Sunday it was time to move him. That's really another story for a different time. Anyway, Mothers Day this year started out with my husband not talking to me. Then we went to my parents house and my Dad passes out. He does do this often. However this time he stopped breathing so that was different. The firemen came and then the EMT's. God bless the Petersburg Fire Department and all of their wives and Mothers who share them on Holidays and Mothers Day! When my mom and I got to the ER we had to wait for a LONG time before we could see him. Guess he did the samething after he got to the hospital. His blood pressure was very low and the nurse was staying with him to monitor it. After 5 hours of the ER they got him into the ICU. It was about 8:00 when I then called Matt to come and get me. About 5 minutes after I called him, he called me back. His sister was very sick and the called 911. My bad day just got worse! My husbands family is very very close. I fell in love with them all right away. I've always been part of the family and they have always made it easy for me. At this point my head was just spinning. At the same time the nurse came in to tell us that my grandparents were there to see Dad so me, my brother and sister-in-law had to go so they could come in. By then Matt should be there to get me so I went outside to wait. We then traded places and he went to the hospital with his sister and I stayed wiht the boys. So that was my Mothers Day. Oh yeah, my brother bought me lunch/dinnner at the hospital so that was my BIG treat!
After all this excitement came the hard part. I never mentioned that my boys were with my dad when he passed out. They were there when my mother was shaking and saying over and over that he was dying. She has never been this scared or upset when this happends to him. My sis-in-law and I joke that we have to be the most cruel family out there because when he passes out now we just give him a blanket and wait for him to wake up. This sounds very harsh but he has been doing this now for about 5 years and the doctors don't know what is wrong. So as I was saying my boys were with him and now they heard Grandma say he was dying. They were scared! Adam was crying and kept rocking and started flapping his hands. That is something he hasn't done in a long time. Ben and Josh were just scared. They didn't cry but they didn't want to stay in the house. They wanted to watch to make sure Gramps was okay. They watched the firemen come. They watched the EMTs leave with Gramps and now they are watching Meema cry. That also never happends. My mom is a very strong person. She NEVER lets anyone see her cry! Now they are with Matt at their other grandmas and they get a call that something is wrong at Aunt Na's. Have I mentioned that my husband is the BEST! He never let the kids know that anything was really wrong. He just said that Aunt Na had to go to the doctor and that He was going to go too. After they picked me up and Matt left the questions started to come. Most of them came from Josh. He is a very chatty child and wants to know everything. In the end Aunt Na was okay and got to come home. Gramps spent four days in ICU. He came home but was still looking very gray. The boys wanted to be at Meema's very day last week, but couldn't. Gramps needed his rest. They are now starting to slow down with the questions. They haven't really talked about it much in the last couple days. Ben did stay with them on Friday night and that helped. He could see that Gramps was doing better.
So I had a very busy week last week and now things are starting to slow down. Yeah, RIGHT!!! It's never slow around here! So now I will go finish preping the kitchen for paint and get the laundry started and get the bathrooms cleaned and get the camper ready for next weekend and....
Did I mention that we were at the Urgent Care last night with Ben?!?!?!? Maybe someday my life will slow down and I can breath, but I really don't think so.
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